What to expect at mealtimes
My final posting about food will be about what to expect at mealtimes and when!
My English friends and I joke about the number of cup holders in American cars and how British cars hardly have any. That is because the Brits don’t eat or drink when driving. They don’t grab a coffee for the road or a bottle of pop to drink along the way. They always stop and have their refreshment then carry on. Meals, whether they are just a quick “tea and a bickie” or a full meal, are always a sit down affair.
MEAL TIMES
Breakfast is fairly informal. A quick bowl of cereal or a full English breakfast is served based on the time you get around. Lunch, however, is from 1 to 2pm, a bit later than we are used to. Dinner varies a bit depending on where you are but is usually served around 6pm.
TEA TIMES
One of the most delightful habits I’ve observed in England is how often they stop for tea. Besides our regular three meals a day, the English stop for “tea and a biscuit”(cookie) around 11 (called ‘elevenses’) in the morning and 4ish (called ‘teatime’) in the afternoon. It doesn’t matter if you are at home or out shopping… at tea time, it is time to stop what ever you are doing and sit.
ORDER OF SERVICE
When I first visited England, it seemed that dinner time was a bit formal. There was always china plates (the Brits don’t use disposable dishes or plasticware…ever!), lots of different silverware (Brit Speak: cutlery) to choose from and no one picked up the dishes until everyone at the table was finished eating. Besides the main dish, there were several more courses served before you leave the table: dessert (Brit Speak: pudding)…then cheese and biscuits (crackers) and, finally, a tea or coffee. It seems a bit stiff for us but it is just everyday life for a British family who all still sit at the table together for the evening meal way more regularly than American families. While on occasion I’ve had dinner in front of the TV (Brit Speak: tellie), it hasn’t ever happened when I’ve been a guest.
CUTLERY, CUTLERY AND MORE CUTLERY!
During World War Two, Americans who went to fight for the British before we officially entered the war had to learn to hold their knives and forks like Brits in the event they got caught so the enemy wouldn’t know they were American. The English hold the fork in their left hand and a knife in their right during the whole meal instead of just using a fork held in the right hand like us. They also hold the fork upside down to us. I used to find it awkward but now find it is really great to always have the knife ready to help scoop up stray morsels. My hostess and I had many fun hours trying to use each other’s way of holding a knife and fork. Give it a try…it is good fun.
Because dinner has so many courses, there is a lot of cutlery set around your plate. For example, besides the usual fork and knife on either side of a dinner plate, you’ll also see a spoon and fork across the top of the plate. It took me a long time to find out about this because I was too shy to ask. These are for the pudding. You don’t have to use them both, just pick the one you like best when you eat your ice cream or cake.
Have fun with these different ways of taking meals. It is a great way to bond with your hostess and her family. Give new things a try and never hesitate to ask for help or an explanation. You’ll find your family delighted that you interested in trying things their way.